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Motivation And Belief-2 completes our examination of what we can do to stop addictive and destructive behavior and to motivate ourselves to accomplish our dreams.

Continued from Motivation And Belief

I Can't Do It Because (insert lie here):

Ever had someone tell you, "I don't have time to see you?"  That's a lie that's become acceptable, even necessary in our culture because the truth is insulting.  The truth is, "You're not important enough in my life for me to spend time with you."  These kinds of lies limit our ability to accomplish things.  I remember all the time I was growing up, hearing the adults say there was no more opportunity, things were so much better before, 'the man was keeping us poor', etc.  People actually repeat such things in front of their kids and then wonder why the kids aren't interested in trying in school or in life.

I remember giving up on several dreams I had as a kid because people had convinced me it was impossible.  Now, when I hear my generation spouting the same garbage in front of kids, I make it a point to show them (and the kids) where they're wrong, making me very popular at family gatherings.  Sure, you want kids to be prepared for the bad things in life, but the message far too many of them are getting is that life is a bad thing.  Just because we bought into the lie our parents used as an excuse for not trying doesn't mean we have to perpetuate that lie any longer in our lives or in our children.  Nothing is easy, but if it's good, and honest and something you've dreamed of doing, you can do it, if you accept no excuses.  

How Beliefs Influence Our Actions:

We've hinted around this idea of belief in every paragraph above.  Now, let's approach it directly.  If you believed the terrorists had planted a bomb where you work and it would be detonated some time during your shift tomorrow, killing everyone, would you be at work tomorrow?  If you believed there was no bomb, but that some time tomorrow your boss would be giving you a $1,000,000 bonus if he finds you there, working, would you allow anything to keep you from work?  This law of belief and motivation drives our every decision and action, from the emotions we feel, to the drugs we take, to the dreams we try to achieve, even the way we approach our jobs and families. 

About 3,000 years ago, a guy named Solomon wrote, "As a man thinks in his heart, so is he."  Anton Chekhov abbreviated it to, "Man is what he believes."  The fact is, there is no way to separate us from our beliefs...we are bound to follow them.  Just as the anorexic believes she's fat and starves herself to death and the IV drug addict believes he needs the substance enough to kill for it, all our actions and emotions are driven by our beliefs.

This unbreakable link between beliefs, emotions and actions makes us feel like someone else is in control, but it gives us a powerful tool to exercise our own control and motivate our actions.  So many of our beliefs were given us while we weren't looking, by people who didn't know they were wrong and had no idea how they were influencing us.  To regain control, we must skeptically examine the beliefs that motivate our undesirable feelings and actions to determine which beliefs are incorrect and destructive.  We must also pour into our minds any and all new beliefs and facts that will motivate positive and productive actions and emotions.  You can use my Human Behavior BAR Cycle article for more detail on how to alter your beliefs to change your actions.

What I'm suggesting, I've been doing for over 20 years.  It's very difficult and very rewarding work.  It's a root solution to almost all the modern dysfunctions.  When considering whether the work is worthwhile, ask yourself, "Do I want to miss my $ 1,000,000 bonus because I thought someone planted a bomb?"       

I want you to know there is someone who can help, who loves you and wants only the best for you.  That someone is God.  If you want help from God, just click on Help Me God.

How do you motivate yourself?

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