hello, i am new here and i really need some support. my husband is an addict. we have been married 4 years but together 10. he has a long history of drug use and got off coke and ecstasy shortly after we met. was suppossed to be clean for years. he told me 2 years ago he had a problem with prescription opiates (oxycontin and percocet). we have children and i am currently pregnant with twins. i have watched him withdrawal 6 times in 2 years and stopped feeling sorry for his withdrawal symptoms on the second withdrawal. recently he told me he had a problem again ( which i knew by the missing money and by checking his cell phone call logs) this time he stated he would go into rehab, he really needed help, etc. 2 days later we had an argument about some things he was doing on the internet and he became physical ( not the first time). he then took a whole bottle of antidepressants he had stolen from someone. he was rushed to the er and ended up spending the night in icu. when he woke up in icu that evening, he yelled at me and kicked me out and said it was my fault he tried to kill himself. the doctor referred him to a 30 day inpatient rehab with 24 hour psych. he refused to go. i gave him an ultimatum of go to rehab or he couldnt come home or see his kids. he chose to leave. he walked home from the hospital and took his car and kleft. all of his family also refused to help him due to his refusals to accept help. he ended up staying with a couple who were friends of his and thepreviously had been selling him pills. after a week, he called and said he wanted to go to rehab. well, he rescheduled the day he was gonna go 3 times. eventually, 2 weeks after the od, he was scheduled to go on a saturday 3 weeks ago. he told everyone he knew he had a problem with drugs and he loved his family and he was going to rehab. that morning he never showed up and my children were devestated. we found off later that day that he disappeared with his friends wife that he had been staying with. over the past 3 weeks, the 2 of them have been staying in hotels for 2 weeks and now with her parents for 2. he has ignored my requests for help when our electric breaker box broke and we were out of electric for 2 days then a water pipe and we were out of water for 4 days, then the car broke down and im out of a vehicle. he will call or text periodically and say he needs help, say he loves up, says hes scheduled for rehab on a certain day, etc. nothing ever happens. i recently heard some voice mails on his cell about him owing people money for drugs he was suppossed to be selling for them. i promptly had the cell phone (which is in my name) turned off. he became irate, threatened me, police were involved etc. this has really been the worst 3 weeks of my life. i feel so helpless. i wish there was something i could do, but i know the best thing for him is to not have any access to me and the kids as we are a crutch for him. he has no job and his unemployment is about to run out in a couple weeks. all he has is a car (with bad tags and no drivers license) and his clothes. she has no car, no liucense, no job, no money or income except for the drugs they are selling. she also walked out on her husband and 4 kids. how much more rock bottom does he have to get? i just dont understand!!!!

Sounds like you've had a rough go of it lately and I can't even imagine how hard this has been for you and your family. I came across your posting while searching the web for support forums for addicts/families. My dad just checked into a rehabilitation clinic yesterday, so my family has been turned upside down this past week. I have known for almost a year and a half that my dad had been taking prescription pain killers and that he might have been abusing them a little bit. Well, this past week my sister and I began talking about how he's been acting lately(over the phone, we both live hundreds of miles away) and we started putting two and two together. That's what set everything in motion, then my sister called my step-mom to find out what's been going on. So, appartently he's been abusing pain killers and who knows what else for at least the past two years. My step-mom finally broke down and told us just how bad everthing has gotten, luckily after waking up in a stupor Thursday morning with his bags packed, he agreed to go to a rehab facility. So, with all of that being said I feel your pain and hope that your husband's not too far gone to get over this addiction. All that I know to do is pray to God for help and that's what me and my family have been doing the past few days. Take care of yourself and your children.

Thinking and praying for you and your family.

Austin