My husband goes to the bar every night. He does not get completely, obliterated or drunk but he continues to drink once he gets home. I do see an attitude change when he has or has not been drinking. I am really concerned for him and would like some advice. We have a 4 year old little boy who obviously take everything in. He doesn't think he has a problem and it seem to me like its getting worse. It has taken a physical toll on me, cause thats all I do is worry about him and what hes doing to himself and us. Please if you have anything that can help I would really appreciate hearing from you. Thanks.

What has helped me is I've decided on what my limits are in terms of what I will tolerate of my husband's behaviour. It is unfortunate that your son sees what is going on. My daughter is in bed when her father comes home, thankfully. So at least the toll of his drinking is solely on me. I'm also a worrier but have come to the realization that I can only control how I react to the situation I'm in. I can't control what he does.

Hi CONCERNEDSPOUSE..

You better have a talk with him, even if he gets riled don't loose your patience.
make him understand what will happen to your 4 yr child's future.. don't give him advice.. speak to him as if you are sharing your trouble, make him feel that he can be helpful to get rid of your problems. that way indirectly you can make him realize your situation.