Hi all. Recently my wife came to me and said she wanted a divorce, but still wants to live together for as long our kids are in the house. She says she still loves me and cares for me, but she can't be in a relationship with anyone.
Here is our situation. We have been together for 10 years, married for 6 1/2. Before we got married, we both worked full time and took care of her daughter. After we got married, we got pregnant, and she was put on bedrest. Since that time she has been a stay at home mom for 6 years. Both of our kids are special needs. So even though she doesn't work, she spends a lot of time working with doctors, insurance companies, etc.
We have gone thru some rough patches here and there. Last spring she brought up the divorce word but mentioned getting help. We both agreed to get help, but the whole family got sick and it got put on the back burner. Things were fine until the beginning of this year. I had said something that she took the wrong way. She asked me to leave for a few days and sje would call me and let me know when i could come home. After 24 hours she called me late at night and talked to me, and i could tell she was upset and had been crying. I told her i love her, but made no mention of coming home, since that was her decision. The next day she called again and asked me to come home. When i got home, she said we need to wotk on things. She got really sick and was laid up for 2 weeks. When she was better she came out and said she wanted a divorce. She told me she loves me and cares for me more than anything. I am her best friend. She wants me in the kids life everyday. That is why she wants me to live in the house.
The reason she wants the divorce is that she says i don't "love" her the same way as when we met. I do admit at times i didn't help out around the house as much as a should of. Since i have been home, i have done more around the house and she has thanked me for it.
We talked last night and she said a lot of things to me that points to a mid life crisis. We had a plan to only live in our house for 3 years, save money and move. She has a college degree that she has been unable to use. She feels like she isn't providing for the family by not working.
I know it is uncommon to get divorced and live together, but with our kids and their needs, 1 parent can not do it themselves. Any suggestions or thought on this situation.
By the way, i still love her as much as i did when i met her.