Big Issues Options

[BernsN]

i have a boyfriend of one and a half years and he is a recovering heroin addict. hes been off and on a few times with being clean. as of right now he is 2 months clean. Our sex life is just not there anymore. i am constantly thinking its me or there is someone else. he told me he was having issues with himself and not really being happy with himself and that its hard to be intimate with me when he isnt happy with himself. idk what to think. HELP!
THANKS!

[Moonglow]

I suggest you learn more about recovery. Off again and on again is not recovery nor is even being clean recovery. Your boyfriend needs to get into rehab and a twelve step program and begin working through everything with a therapist and sponsor. Per the sex it is him not you. Ideally for his recovery he should not be attempting to have a sexually intimate relationship with you or anyone so in reality it is quite an irrelevant problem in terms of his recovery. He’s just not ready for that sort of thing. For you learning more about recovery can be supportive in ending the relationship, allowing him to get into recovery, and moving on in your intimate life.