Living With An Alcoholic Options

[Glen]

It really doesn't matter if we're the child, spouse or parent of an alcoholic; the abuse, pain, self-doubt and fear are severe and frequent. We spend a lot of compassionate effort trying to help alcoholics recover, but very little on the loved ones, some of whom may be scarred for life. If you have a loved one who is an alcoholic, this article is for you. If you're addicted to alcohol and have loved ones trying to help you, please consider this article a wake-up call.
Secrets And Lies:

Alcohol addicts need to be woken up because the biggest lie they tell is to themselves, "I don't have a problem." As much as you love the alcoholic in your family, that lie is what makes it easy to lie to you. My father would say he'll be at my game, my play, my graduation...usually lies. When he didn't arrive, it was always because he was tired. Funny how tired you can get after a few drinks...or before a few. He did the best he could, given his addictions, so, I'm not whining...Just letting you know I know what you're going through. Some alcoholics claim...

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[oneofhisown7]

I lived with an alcoholic parent and went through a lot of things.
One in particular was physical abuse. Then there were the things of importance
that were neglected. Events that they were either not present for or somehow
they managed to show up late to. Holidays were put together by the skin of their teeth.
Yeah, I can agree with your post because I remember this stuff very well myself.
I am the oldest and a lot was dumped on me during those years.

Wouldn't ya know..... Here I am a married Mom of four kids.
And my husband is an alcoholic. Started doing the drinking thing months into our
marriage. One night a week led to many. He's been doing this for 13 years now.
There has been verbal abuse, being gone for hours doing only God knows what,
to the lies or denial..... behavior he can't recall the next day. He does real good making sure
he gets to work or goes to the things the kids have going on. Yet once he's home there is this.
I see him secretly putting together plans for his night out, trips to purchase alcohol are done in
a sneaky manner, he sometimes hides what he is doing. Just all dishonest stuff but all of it is
done to get him through another night of being drunk.

Alcoholics are frustrating to talk to and all I get are a bunch of mind games.
I am praying for some help from above as I can't stand to be around this anymore.
I've struggled with anxiety,depression, & anger from all this stuff. That isn't even
me or who I am. I just want a healthly relationship but I don't seriously believe I
will unless this man stops what it is he is doing.

I'm a stay at home Mom and the only thing that sounds good to me
is becoming self sufficient and moving out with my kids. Only reason why
I stay is because I am hoping to see God do something with this man. Yet
even I know you have to want God's help in order to get it.

[boopinkbutterfly]

It's not easy to live with an alcoholic man. It's not really easy to talk with him silly things or even sometimes fight with it his dumb topics. Alcoholic man doesn't think good when the effects of the alcohol goes into his mind. I for one doesn't really like to live with an alcoholic man or even just t talk with him for a second. I don't like the smell of his breath and I don't want to have conversation because I know it wouldn't make sense at all. But I surely believe that an alcoholic man would change as my father and brother did now. My brother really changed a lot. It's worthy to leave and believe that they would change.=)
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mai=)
Suffering from an addiction. This website has a lot of great resources and treatment centers.
http://www.treatmentcenters.org

[Eirene]

Being married or living with an alcoholic is hopeless. I have finally come to believe that. I have ran out of hope. Now I am hope LESS.

I want out and I want him out, but he won't leave. I find the drunkeness intolerable and disgusting. Just hopeless.

[Roo2u]

My husband became an alcoholic after losing his high tech job in the Bay area (CA) and having to move to AZ. He or should I say we also were into Meth there. We now live to close to and rent from his parents. We no longer do Meth but he now has alcohol as a subsitute. Even though he holds down a full time job it is ruining our life. I stopped drinking with him. But have recently began again. His drinking has ruined our sex life. I have even treatened to leave him. He admits he has a problem but does nothing about it . This is a man who used to never drink but he seems to need to get high on something. It makes me so sad to see how much the bottle means to him. If only I was that important! I know from past experience that joining him is not the answer so why do I?

A fool in love only enables