We've all heard them...blood is thicker than water...nothing is more important than family...yada, yada, yada. What is it that makes almost everyone in the human race believe that no matter what a family member does, we have to be all chummy? It's amazing to me that a family member can be a convicted unrepentant violent felon and everybody's just supposed to make nice.
What if a family member has taken advantage of this relationship and robbed you, beat you, sexually abused you and hasn't even given you the satisfaction of an acknowledgement, let alone apology? Some people believe you just have to pretend nothing happened and let bygones be bygones. For some of us who have been abused, that's like the rest of the family just abused us all over again.
Look, I'm all for forgiveness...it's real important for our recovery, but that doesn't mean we have to set ourselves up to have our wounds reopened by the very people who made those wounds in the first place. If a family member has hurt you and being around them is too traumatic, don't be around them. If the rest of the family can't accept that and won't let it go...don't be around them either. One of the cool things about being a grown up is the ability to choose who you want to spend time with. Frankly, there is too little time to spend any of it with toxic people, family or not.
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