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		<title>Alcoholic Husband Finally Might Go Thru With Counseling And I Am Ready To Leave</title>
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		<description><![CDATA[OK, I've posted on here before, and wrote quite a lengthy story.  I will try to sum things up as quick as possible, but fill you in on the important details as well.  Here's the story... My husband and I have been married for 11 and a half years.  I have a 15 year old son from a previous relationship, my husband and I have two kids together, a boy 10 yrs, and a girl 7 yrs.  My husband has been a drinker from day one, I figured it was the "I just moved out of my parent's house and want to live it up for a little and get it out of my system" phase, and he'd eventually grow up and out of it... He didn't, and although he had periods of less drinking, I really can't remember any lengthy periods of time where he wasn't drinking... and I'm saying nothing over a month, and that may be giving him credit... In addition to the drinking problem, I also began to realize he was very into porn.  I'd find porn mags everywhere you can think of... Our telephone bill was run up to or over $400 more than once with calls to 900 numbers... and our cable bill was run up as high as well... he had even agreed to a $400 magazine subscription over the phone to receive a porn mag.  In amongst these issues, I began to realize he was a compulsive liar, lying to me every chance he got. Then we got a computer and I found  of porn pictures and movies all the time, and if I'd find one, and confront him, he'd delete it, and then make a new one but hide it better.  From the beginning I'd confront him on this and  to qhe'd promise to quit it, but it never happened.  Along with the "obsession with porn, he was basically masturbating on an almost daily basis, and we were "active" on an almost daily basis as well... Then, we had our first baby in '99, and he was still a drinker, and still into his porn and stuff.  When I'd confront him he'd tell me that he was never gonna quit drinking, but that he did need to cut back, as for the porn, it became an issue with us, and he told me I was the one with the issue...  that I had self-esteem issues and wasn't thinking of his needs and wants, and that he was just a normal man, and I should basically get over it.  Well, in the next few years things got worse.  We moved to what was supposed to be an incredible opportunity for us financially, but to me it was a huge mistake, relationally, emotionally, financially and I don't think we've ever recovered.  Initially he drastically cut back his drinking, but it wasn't long before things returned to normal, and then some.  The porn continued, and I guess progressed, as it was here that he discovered online games and chat rooms.  He apparently had talked to a few people in online game room chats.  We moved back to our old neck of the woods with a hope for old lifestyles restored, but it never happened... His parents went thru a rough spell and almost split up due to infidelity, but managed to forgive and move on.  He had a hard time with it.  Then he got a new job, basically a dream job for him.  He was management, had carte blanche with his hours and could work from home as well.  Plus a 15K/yr raise over his previous job.  Sounds dreamy right?  Well, he also had the ability to hire an assistant, and after a temp or two, he hired his best friend/drinking buddy.  Now let me add that his company gave him a company issued credit card, and he had the ability to use it as needed.  So, he began having "work lunches" almost every day starting as early as 11:30 in the morning eventually.  Yes these were drinking sessions for him and his friend.  This went on for years, and his drinking got worse and worse. The lunches started out happening at 3PM and moved to 1PM and then progressing to as early as 11:30AM as I said.  (I'm sorry this is getting long-winded, but feel the details are necessary to understand the situation I'm in right now, please bear with me... )   The job came about 5 1/2 yrs ago, I think.  And, right about this time of year five years ago, I went to  the computer to look something up and found he left his email account open and was horrified by what I found.  There was probably close to 100 messages from females, all of a sexual nature.  I found out he had an account on an adult swingers web site.  He posted pictures of his private parts (excited) from different angles.  And was writing back and forth between multiple women.  Then I found out he had an account/profile on more than one website like this, and other dating websites. About two years ago, I think, I found he had a membership to an online escort service and had looked people up in areas he went for work, no evidence of ever meeting anyone or even emailing anyone, until about a few months later I found an email he wrote to soemone based within a helf hour drive of our home, telling her he was new to this and a. sking how it works.  They emailed a few times but I don't think he ever met with her, but I am not 100% sure.  About two or three years before that, I found out he was talking to a girl, not from the escorts site... just a girl from about a 45 minute drive away, on a frequent basis.  Through email, text and eventually phone calls.  He'd even hang up phone calls with me to talk to her, saying he had a work call he had to take.  Eventually after about 5 months, I confronted him, and he said he met her in a online pool game chat room.  There was nothing to worry about, and he'd end it with her.  A few times after that, I'd find out they were talking again, and he'd promise it would be done and this happened two or three times, and I believe within a year it stopped happening.  But the porn still continued.  He has looked up pretty much every female celebrity out there with many different words after their name, including... sexy, naked, nude, nipples, nipple slip, upskirt, camel toe, sex scene, boobs, breasts, and  there were a few others as well, I can't recall off my head right now. and I found downloaded porn movies as well, quite few I should say... more confrontations, more promises, more promises broken.  Then I realized he developed a "friendship" with a female coworker.  He told me I was crazy because he was not attracted to her... saying she was "like 300 pounds" I found texts between him and her that I felt were odd.  Because of his job he traveled a good bit, and had to go away for a few nights for a conference with his whole company... when he returned there were texts between them saying they just got back to their rooms and should they meet in his room or hers and he said he had beer and tequila in his room, and then he told her he'd be right over to her room with the beer and tequila, doesn't seem appropriate to me... He'd go to "meetings" and tell me she wasn't there, but his texts or emails seemed to say differently.  I didn't always confront him, because I was afraid he'd get better at hiding things from me and then I'd never know what was going on.  He always does and did deny any sexual activity with anyone other than me since we've been married.  Then things got worse and more strange.  I started finding weird pictures on his work provided camera.  There were pictures of females doing various everyday things... grocery shopping, pumping gas, going into the bank, walking their dog, jogging, pushing their baby coaches... sometimes they were zoomed in to focus on their butts sometimes not.  I felt this was creepy, and not sure how to react, so I never confronted him on it just documented it.  Then February of last year he got his second DUI in three years, and he is now paying the consequences of it.  As are we, having to drive him places, deal with the financial aspects of it and they are expensive.  We have fought a lot lately mostly about his drinking, but also because of what his drinking has caused him to do.  He has stolen money from me and two of our kids... not all three of them because two and a half years ago my oldest decided, on Mother's Day, that he no longer wanted to live with us and wanted to live with his dad's family because he didn't like my husband... because he feels he's mean, he treated him unfairly, and he drinks too much.  My son will not even come to the house if he knows my husband will be there.  We see him at school functions and family functions with my parents because my husband hasn't gone to a family function with my side of the family for about 10 years.  So... now we are coming up to recent activity... The drinking has gotten worse, he now drinks about/up to 12 pounder cans of beer every night and also drinks up to 4 pounder cans of beer almost every morning before his ride comes to take him to work.  Sometimes he starts drinking again by 2 AM, typically he drinks up to 4 pounder cans between 4AM and 5:30/6AM, then goes to work, and gets home around 3:45 and starts drinking again.  His doctor prescribed him Zanax about four months ago, for his anxiety, and he now takes two of them almost every single day, when he is at work, I'm assuming he's taking them to help him deal with not being able to drink... he denies that is true.  I have threatened to leave him, which has done nothing.  About six months ago, I found videos he made with pictures he took of people on the road... and he also downloaded pictures from his female friends on myspace or facebook and made slideshow videos with them, he'd crop them down to just the girls, cutting out their husbands, or kids, anyone but the female, especially pictures of girls in bathing suits or skimpy outfits, some of them were exes of his, that he has remained friends with.  He even went as far as taking old pictures of my sister and he'd crop them down to just show her, cutting out her kids or husband or any one else on them and made that into a slideshow/video.  Her husband knows and wants to confront him/kick his butt.  He also got an old laptop from a friend and it still had his friends email in it, and he found an email in there from his friends friend where she sent a bunch of pictures of her and her fiance on vacation, she was wearing a bikini, and he took those pictures and made a slideshow of them even zooming in on her crotch area.  He ended up making about 10 of these videos, and he hid them on our computer very well... But I've gotten very good at finding things he hides on the computer.  In this folder I found multiple nasty disgusting porn movies, of nasty nature. I was totally appalled.  Eventually I confronted him, and he gave some lame excuse, and eventually they were all deleted.  Now it's been probably 4 months since I've seen anything of this nature, but it still freaks me out that he ever did it.  And what will happen when he starts driving again and has free time on his hand with no one else around, will he start again?  As of right now he met with our pastor tonight to discuss his drinking.  The pastor suggested he start coming to meetings on Monday nights with a drug "counselor"  He says he is ready to quit drinking.  Although after his meeting he still managed to down at least a six pack of pounder cans tonight, between 5PM and 8PM, Here's the deal... I was just offered an awesome opportunity to move into a house for almost 5 months at a very affordable price. I could have moved in a week and a half ago, but spent some time cleaning it first, and now he is claiming he's quitting, and needs my support and love and encouragement, etc.  Am I an evil person if I still leave now that he is going to counseling, or am I still doing the right thing by leaving.  Please help me.  I was just finally coming to terms with the idea of ending my marriage and being a single parent and then he does this.  And his mom is asking me to support him, show him I believe in him, etc, but I can't help but wonder if he will actually follow through with it or if it is just to get his license back, and then what about the other issues as well, although they havent been at the forefront, I believe he has a sexual addiction, or porn addiction, or masturbation addiction, and friends have been telling me to watch out because he could be a potential threat to my daughter.  I'd like to think he'd never do that, but I guess that's a typical hope.  But I have to look out for my kids.  If something happened to them, I'd never forgive myself, but if I accuse him of something that never happened and it ruined his life more than he already has, I'd have a hard time forgiving myself for that as well.  i have never caught him touching the kids in inappropriate ways, but, there is something else that concerns me... he is not one for modesty, and has no problem walking through the house in his underwear, even if the kids are awake, and he has no problem using the bathroom with the doors wide open, or getting a bath with the doors open and with the kids in the room, he has even let our daughter wash his arm or knee... is this ok or is this something to worry about... he says it is just that she asked if she could wash him, which I believe could happen because she always wants to help, she even offered to help me wash my hands while we are cooking, she loves to help people.  I've had plenty of conversations with my kids about their private areas and how they are not to let anyone touch them and that if someone does, to let me know right away, so I can help make sure it doesn't happen again.  and that they would not be in trouble if it happened, but that they need to let me know.  When I used to sleep in our bed, alot of nights one or both of the two younger kids almost always came into bed with us at somepoint in the middle of the night.  There was a night when I woke up for some reason in the middle of the night, it was between 1 and 4AM, and our kids were in the bed as well and I found my husband awake and masturbating... I freaked out and told him he was sick and that it was inappropriate to do that with our kids in the bed, and that our bathroom was five feet away and he should go there, but he told  me I was overreacting.  I know that it has happened other times besides that night.  That was probably about 2 years ago, but, i still think it is inappropriate.  <br />He has told me that i need to get over the past and move forward, but i feel stuck in the world of the unkown.  I still feel like i want to leave, but, wonder if i am just needing to get over the past, or not.  As I asked earlier, if he is starting treatment as he says he is, am i awful to still want to leave, or am i justified...?  PLEASE HELP ME???  I AM SO CONFUSED!!!!!]]></description>
		<pubDate>Thu, 19 Nov 2009 00:37:10 -0800</pubDate>
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		<title>Alcoholic Husband Finally Might Go Thru With Counseling And I Am Ready To Leave</title>
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		<description><![CDATA[OK, I've posted on here before, and wrote quite a lengthy story.  I will try to sum things up as quick as possible, but fill you in on the important details as well.  Here's the story... My husband and I have been married for 11 and a half years.  I have a 15 year old son from a previous relationship, my husband and I have two kids together, a boy 10 yrs, and a girl 7 yrs.  My husband has been a drinker from day one, I figured it was the "I just moved out of my parent's house and want to live it up for a little and get it out of my system" phase, and he'd eventually grow up and out of it... He didn't, and although he had periods of less drinking, I really can't remember any lengthy periods of time where he wasn't drinking... and I'm saying nothing over a month, and that may be giving him credit... In addition to the drinking problem, I also began to realize he was very into porn.  I'd find porn mags everywhere you can think of... Our telephone bill was run up to or over $400 more than once with calls to 900 numbers... and our cable bill was run up as high as well... he had even agreed to a $400 magazine subscription over the phone to receive a porn mag.  In amongst these issues, I began to realize he was a compulsive liar, lying to me every chance he got. Then we got a computer and I found  of porn pictures and movies all the time, and if I'd find one, and confront him, he'd delete it, and then make a new one but hide it better.  From the beginning I'd confront him on this and  to qhe'd promise to quit it, but it never happened.  Along with the "obsession with porn, he was basically masturbating on an almost daily basis, and we were "active" on an almost daily basis as well... Then, we had our first baby in '99, and he was still a drinker, and still into his porn and stuff.  When I'd confront him he'd tell me that he was never gonna quit drinking, but that he did need to cut back, as for the porn, it became an issue with us, and he told me I was the one with the issue...  that I had self-esteem issues and wasn't thinking of his needs and wants, and that he was just a normal man, and I should basically get over it.  Well, in the next few years things got worse.  We moved to what was supposed to be an incredible opportunity for us financially, but to me it was a huge mistake, relationally, emotionally, financially and I don't think we've ever recovered.  Initially he drastically cut back his drinking, but it wasn't long before things returned to normal, and then some.  The porn continued, and I guess progressed, as it was here that he discovered online games and chat rooms.  He apparently had talked to a few people in online game room chats.  We moved back to our old neck of the woods with a hope for old lifestyles restored, but it never happened... His parents went thru a rough spell and almost split up due to infidelity, but managed to forgive and move on.  He had a hard time with it.  Then he got a new job, basically a dream job for him.  He was management, had carte blanche with his hours and could work from home as well.  Plus a 15K/yr raise over his previous job.  Sounds dreamy right?  Well, he also had the ability to hire an assistant, and after a temp or two, he hired his best friend/drinking buddy.  Now let me add that his company gave him a company issued credit card, and he had the ability to use it as needed.  So, he began having "work lunches" almost every day starting as early as 11:30 in the morning eventually.  Yes these were drinking sessions for him and his friend.  This went on for years, and his drinking got worse and worse. The lunches started out happening at 3PM and moved to 1PM and then progressing to as early as 11:30AM as I said.  (I'm sorry this is getting long-winded, but feel the details are necessary to understand the situation I'm in right now, please bear with me... )   The job came about 5 1/2 yrs ago, I think.  And, right about this time of year five years ago, I went to  the computer to look something up and found he left his email account open and was horrified by what I found.  There was probably close to 100 messages from females, all of a sexual nature.  I found out he had an account on an adult swingers web site.  He posted pictures of his private parts (excited) from different angles.  And was writing back and forth between multiple women.  Then I found out he had an account/profile on more than one website like this, and other dating websites. About two years ago, I think, I found he had a membership to an online escort service and had looked people up in areas he went for work, no evidence of ever meeting anyone or even emailing anyone, until about a few months later I found an email he wrote to soemone based within a helf hour drive of our home, telling her he was new to this and a. sking how it works.  They emailed a few times but I don't think he ever met with her, but I am not 100% sure.  About two or three years before that, I found out he was talking to a girl, not from the escorts site... just a girl from about a 45 minute drive away, on a frequent basis.  Through email, text and eventually phone calls.  He'd even hang up phone calls with me to talk to her, saying he had a work call he had to take.  Eventually after about 5 months, I confronted him, and he said he met her in a online pool game chat room.  There was nothing to worry about, and he'd end it with her.  A few times after that, I'd find out they were talking again, and he'd promise it would be done and this happened two or three times, and I believe within a year it stopped happening.  But the porn still continued.  He has looked up pretty much every female celebrity out there with many different words after their name, including... sexy, naked, nude, nipples, nipple slip, upskirt, camel toe, sex scene, boobs, breasts, and  there were a few others as well, I can't recall off my head right now. and I found downloaded porn movies as well, quite few I should say... more confrontations, more promises, more promises broken.  Then I realized he developed a "friendship" with a female coworker.  He told me I was crazy because he was not attracted to her... saying she was "like 300 pounds" I found texts between him and her that I felt were odd.  Because of his job he traveled a good bit, and had to go away for a few nights for a conference with his whole company... when he returned there were texts between them saying they just got back to their rooms and should they meet in his room or hers and he said he had beer and tequila in his room, and then he told her he'd be right over to her room with the beer and tequila, doesn't seem appropriate to me... He'd go to "meetings" and tell me she wasn't there, but his texts or emails seemed to say differently.  I didn't always confront him, because I was afraid he'd get better at hiding things from me and then I'd never know what was going on.  He always does and did deny any sexual activity with anyone other than me since we've been married.  Then things got worse and more strange.  I started finding weird pictures on his work provided camera.  There were pictures of females doing various everyday things... grocery shopping, pumping gas, going into the bank, walking their dog, jogging, pushing their baby coaches... sometimes they were zoomed in to focus on their butts sometimes not.  I felt this was creepy, and not sure how to react, so I never confronted him on it just documented it.  Then February of last year he got his second DUI in three years, and he is now paying the consequences of it.  As are we, having to drive him places, deal with the financial aspects of it and they are expensive.  We have fought a lot lately mostly about his drinking, but also because of what his drinking has caused him to do.  He has stolen money from me and two of our kids... not all three of them because two and a half years ago my oldest decided, on Mother's Day, that he no longer wanted to live with us and wanted to live with his dad's family because he didn't like my husband... because he feels he's mean, he treated him unfairly, and he drinks too much.  My son will not even come to the house if he knows my husband will be there.  We see him at school functions and family functions with my parents because my husband hasn't gone to a family function with my side of the family for about 10 years.  So... now we are coming up to recent activity... The drinking has gotten worse, he now drinks about/up to 12 pounder cans of beer every night and also drinks up to 4 pounder cans of beer almost every morning before his ride comes to take him to work.  Sometimes he starts drinking again by 2 AM, typically he drinks up to 4 pounder cans between 4AM and 5:30/6AM, then goes to work, and gets home around 3:45 and starts drinking again.  His doctor prescribed him Zanax about four months ago, for his anxiety, and he now takes two of them almost every single day, when he is at work, I'm assuming he's taking them to help him deal with not being able to drink... he denies that is true.  I have threatened to leave him, which has done nothing.  About six months ago, I found videos he made with pictures he took of people on the road... and he also downloaded pictures from his female friends on myspace or facebook and made slideshow videos with them, he'd crop them down to just the girls, cutting out their husbands, or kids, anyone but the female, especially pictures of girls in bathing suits or skimpy outfits, some of them were exes of his, that he has remained friends with.  He even went as far as taking old pictures of my sister and he'd crop them down to just show her, cutting out her kids or husband or any one else on them and made that into a slideshow/video.  Her husband knows and wants to confront him/kick his butt.  He also got an old laptop from a friend and it still had his friends email in it, and he found an email in there from his friends friend where she sent a bunch of pictures of her and her fiance on vacation, she was wearing a bikini, and he took those pictures and made a slideshow of them even zooming in on her crotch area.  He ended up making about 10 of these videos, and he hid them on our computer very well... But I've gotten very good at finding things he hides on the computer.  In this folder I found multiple nasty disgusting porn movies, of nasty nature. I was totally appalled.  Eventually I confronted him, and he gave some lame excuse, and eventually they were all deleted.  Now it's been probably 4 months since I've seen anything of this nature, but it still freaks me out that he ever did it.  And what will happen when he starts driving again and has free time on his hand with no one else around, will he start again?  As of right now he met with our pastor tonight to discuss his drinking.  The pastor suggested he start coming to meetings on Monday nights with a drug "counselor"  He says he is ready to quit drinking.  Although after his meeting he still managed to down at least a six pack of pounder cans tonight, between 5PM and 8PM, Here's the deal... I was just offered an awesome opportunity to move into a house for almost 5 months at a very affordable price. I could have moved in a week and a half ago, but spent some time cleaning it first, and now he is claiming he's quitting, and needs my support and love and encouragement, etc.  Am I an evil person if I still leave now that he is going to counseling, or am I still doing the right thing by leaving.  Please help me.  I was just finally coming to terms with the idea of ending my marriage and being a single parent and then he does this.  And his mom is asking me to support him, show him I believe in him, etc, but I can't help but wonder if he will actually follow through with it or if it is just to get his license back, and then what about the other issues as well, although they havent been at the forefront, I believe he has a sexual addiction, or porn addiction, or masturbation addiction, and friends have been telling me to watch out because he could be a potential threat to my daughter.  I'd like to think he'd never do that, but I guess that's a typical hope.  But I have to look out for my kids.  If something happened to them, I'd never forgive myself, but if I accuse him of something that never happened and it ruined his life more than he already has, I'd have a hard time forgiving myself for that as well.  i have never caught him touching the kids in inappropriate ways, but, there is something else that concerns me... he is not one for modesty, and has no problem walking through the house in his underwear, even if the kids are awake, and he has no problem using the bathroom with the doors wide open, or getting a bath with the doors open and with the kids in the room, he has even let our daughter wash his arm or knee... is this ok or is this something to worry about... he says it is just that she asked if she could wash him, which I believe could happen because she always wants to help, she even offered to help me wash my hands while we are cooking, she loves to help people.  I've had plenty of conversations with my kids about their private areas and how they are not to let anyone touch them and that if someone does, to let me know right away, so I can help make sure it doesn't happen again.  and that they would not be in trouble if it happened, but that they need to let me know.  When I used to sleep in our bed, alot of nights one or both of the two younger kids almost always came into bed with us at somepoint in the middle of the night.  There was a night when I woke up for some reason in the middle of the night, it was between 1 and 4AM, and our kids were in the bed as well and I found my husband awake and masturbating... I freaked out and told him he was sick and that it was inappropriate to do that with our kids in the bed, and that our bathroom was five feet away and he should go there, but he told  me I was overreacting.  I know that it has happened other times besides that night.  That was probably about 2 years ago, but, i still think it is inappropriate.  <br />He has told me that i need to get over the past and move forward, but i feel stuck in the world of the unkown.  I still feel like i want to leave, but, wonder if i am just needing to get over the past, or not.  As I asked earlier, if he is starting treatment as he says he is, am i awful to still want to leave, or am i justified...?  PLEASE HELP ME???  I AM SO CONFUSED!!!!!]]></description>
		<pubDate>Thu, 19 Nov 2009 00:32:11 -0800</pubDate>
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		<title>Exhibitionism</title>
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		<description><![CDATA[Hi i'm Ron 41 From Australia, have been battleing exhibitionism, have been doing this since pre-puberty, have just been charged again with Exhibitionism why do i do this..?? is there any hope/help 4 me..?<br /><br />I have been involved with porno mags since pre-puberty which i think is the cause of my exhibition today, am not so much now into porn, never really watch/read it.. <br /><br />Am a single 41 yr old guy, been single for about 11 odd years now except for a recent "freinds with benifets" relationship that did last very long at all...<br /><br />Have no real desire to be in a relationship mainly due to poor sexual performance, eg i get no satisfaction from intercourse and am not very fit to perform it anyway, however in  saying that, a companion would be nice...<br /><br />Is there anyone out there that can help me understand and deal with this problem..?<br /><br />My motivation level is very low, i dont do any exercise and have no desire to do so, i dont work, am on DSP pension..<br /><br />Atm the moment, i dont know waht else to say, would love some help though...<br /><br />Regards<br />ron]]></description>
		<pubDate>Tue, 17 Nov 2009 10:53:09 -0800</pubDate>
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		<title>Onedayatatime</title>
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		<description><![CDATA[Hello everyone,<br /><br />I am addicted to pornography.  I began looking at it when I was about 12, and I am now 24 years old.  There have been numerous times where I have gone for weeks, sometimes months (maximum I have done was about 6 months) without indulging the addiction, but so far it has always come back.  Lately I have been looking at pornography and masturbating about once a week, that seems to be about as long as I can go right now...and I need help.  I did it this morning, and I want it to be the last time.<br /><br />I am joining this community and starting this thread in the hopes that I can find more motivation and a way to let people know about my progress.  I have a version of a 12-step program that I am going through.  I believe in Jesus Christ, and I know that it is through Him that I will ultimately be able to recover and be clean.<br /><br />Please post your encouragement and comments, and I'll try to do the same.  Thank you for your support.<br /><br />christopher<br /><br />one day at a time]]></description>
		<pubDate>Mon, 16 Nov 2009 12:32:43 -0800</pubDate>
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		<title>Onedayatatime</title>
		<link>http://www.way2hope.org/family-forums/index.php?showtopic=1642</link>
		<description><![CDATA[Hello everyone,<br /><br />I am addicted to pornography.  I began looking at it when I was about 12, and I am now 24 years old.  There have been numerous times where I have gone for weeks, sometimes months (maximum I have done was about 6 months) without indulging the addiction, but so far it has always come back.  Lately I have been looking at pornography and masturbating about once a week, that seems to be about as long as I can go right now...and I need help.  I did it this morning, and I want it to be the last time.<br /><br />I am joining this community and starting this thread in the hopes that I can find more motivation and a way to let people know about my progress.  I have a version of a 12-step program that I am going through.  I believe in Jesus Christ, and I know that it is through Him that I will ultimately be able to recover and be clean.<br /><br />Please post your encouragement and comments, and I'll try to do the same.  Thank you for your support.<br /><br />christopher<br /><br />one day at a time]]></description>
		<pubDate>Mon, 16 Nov 2009 12:32:39 -0800</pubDate>
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		<title>Health Tips</title>
		<link>http://www.way2hope.org/family-forums/index.php?showtopic=1610</link>
		<description><![CDATA[HI..<br /><br />1. To avoid diseases like hepatitis and Typhoid, eat 5 basil leaves everyday.<br /><br />2. For tooth ache, keep a clove on the affected area.<br /><br />3. Have a mixture of gingelly oil and egg, for 3 days, for menstrual disorders.<br /><br />4. You will get a great relief from menstrual pain , if you have a gooseberry daily.<br /><br />5. Boil the leaf of Malabar nut, squeeze its juice and add egg white. It subsides cough.<br /><br />6. Eat the powder of dried ginger and cumin with sugar for relief from cough.<br /><br />7. Have the mixture of mustard paste and honey for good relief from cough.<br /><br />8. For a good relief from cough, mix equal quantities of basil juice, honey and ajwain juice and drink on an empty stomach.<br /><br />9. Are you suffering from urinary infection? Drink a glassful of water with a pinch of cardamom powder.<br /><br />10. Have a mixture of lemon juice and honey when you are suffering from cold.]]></description>
		<pubDate>Fri, 16 Oct 2009 16:55:47 -0700</pubDate>
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		<title>Escape The Addiction Pit</title>
		<link>http://www.way2hope.org/family-forums/index.php?showtopic=1160</link>
		<description><![CDATA[Part of what makes recovery so hard is the fact that it has to be pursued on purpose, with discipline and determination.  When we lived in our addiction, we just mindlessly followed the high, wherever it led.  Now that we've begun to see the destructive path we left behind us, it's time for us to begin to find a way not to do that any more.  In this article, the first of two, we'll discuss...<br /><br />Read Complete Article, "<a href="http://www.way2hope.org/addiction/addiction-escape.htm" target="_blank">Addiction, Escape From The Pit</a>."]]></description>
		<pubDate>Wed, 04 Jun 2008 15:22:37 -0700</pubDate>
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		<title>I Do Not Like White People Help Me!</title>
		<link>http://www.way2hope.org/family-forums/index.php?showtopic=1596</link>
		<description><![CDATA[Hey ,  im a young man who comes from middle east. My fathers brothers both married caucasians and i do not like them. The women are gold-diggers and have poor education. One of them "claims" to be a lawyer , the other is a show-off. They treat me like dirt. I am tired of living around white women who were once maids and now have millions. I despise white people.<br /><br />How can you help me.]]></description>
		<pubDate>Tue, 22 Sep 2009 15:37:40 -0700</pubDate>
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		<title>I Need Help</title>
		<link>http://www.way2hope.org/family-forums/index.php?showtopic=1629</link>
		<description>I need help in anyway possible. A hero if you will. I am 27, a fulltime student, and a stay at home mom. I am married to a man that is very abusive. He choked me the other night to the point that i almost blacked out. Just two weeks ago, he said he doesnt want ot be a father, husband and provider anymore and walked out on us. He makes all the money.Just the pther day he got another DUI and will going to jail very soon and then I will be homeless with no where to go. I have nothing just two hungry, growning mouths to feed. I have no car, no job,no family and no money. I am trying to get state help but to get cash help u need to go to a class to help get you a job. I dont have a car to get there. I have tried shelters they wont take my 5 months old daughter or they dont have beds for us. He is out of the house. I want to leave with my kids to Chicago and need help getting there and getting settled.I know this is a long shot but I will do anything to get my kids to a safe place. I need this help and any other help you could provide would be great!. thanks for listening .</description>
		<pubDate>Tue, 03 Nov 2009 11:45:16 -0800</pubDate>
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		<title>Brother Abusing Sister Sexually</title>
		<link>http://www.way2hope.org/family-forums/index.php?showtopic=1624</link>
		<description><![CDATA[I adopted our 3 children (who are siblings) 10 years ago. I have had two instances of my teenage son trying to have sex with his sister. She is 12 and he is 14. I don't know what to do. The last case was almost a year ago and we reported it to CPS. This time my husband caught them before they did anything but he did take naked pictures of her and she allowed him to touch her vagina with his penis. I don't understand what is happening. He has been on anti psychotic medicines for many years. He treats so badly usually and calls her moron. Tonight he told her he loved her and wanted to touch her. I don't know what to think or do at this point. The only thing I can think is to remove him from our home...any suggestions or thoughts? He was removed from his parents when he was 3 1/2. there was physical abuse and neglect in his home. ]]></description>
		<pubDate>Sun, 25 Oct 2009 18:33:59 -0700</pubDate>
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